Relationships

Recent research shows the generational impact on families and society by looking at this key demographic correlation.

Some of the best articles on singleness, dating, and marriage.

Sex, Dating, and Relationships by Heistand and Thomas — this is the book on dating for Christians.

More Than Single – short book with good insight, perspective, and practical advice on navigating singleness and relationships

Advice for Young Men by John Harris — a brief article that’s challenging and inspiring. Soak this up, men.

The New Rules for Sex, Love, and Dating” by Andy Stanley – solid series that’s perceptive, profound, and practical. Also a solid series and a great overview (and very practical) on love, romance, dating, sex, marriage, and family: “The Mingling of Souls” by Matt Chandler. And some great “live” Q/A videos with Matt and his wife here.

One Single Sex Boundary That Just Might Work — actually, it does work. Ask me about it if you want the story.

The Meaning of Marriage by Tim & Kathy Keller (this is one of the best books to read on dating because you must begin with the end in mind)

Married For God by Christopher Ash

A Marriage Preparatory Inventory” by the Biblical Counseling Coalition — very thorough, to say the least

What Did You Expect? Redeeming the realities of marriage by Paul Tripp

Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart by John Ensor (a short, but insightful, challenging book that delivers on the title)

Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud

The Case for Early Marriage — fascinating article in Christianity Today

God and Sex” by Matt Chandler — one of the best talks Jarrod has heard on dating/relationships. It’s 2 hours long, but the second hour is live Q/A from the audience. However, you need to listen to the first hour in order to understand the answers given in the second hour.

Dating — great talk by Mark Driscoll. Below are his notes:

Religion Saves and Nine Other Misconceptions — great chapter on dating. Here’s a basic outline of the sermon, which that chapter is based: The author starts by explaining four kinds of relationships–three of which are acceptable for Christians, and one of which is sinful (option #3). #1 – Prearranged Marriage #2 – Courtship #3 ā€“ Non Christian Dating #4 – Christian Dating

He also gave some practical advice for single men and single women alike, and advice for men and women specifically: Christian Dating Principles for Both Men and Women

  1. Maximize your singleness for God.
  2. Do not pursue a relationship until you are ready to marry.
  3. Be reasonable ā€“ do not set your expectations too high or too low.
  4. A date is not dating: date = time together; dating = couple (1 Tim. 5:1-2).
  5. Never go on a date or date a non-Christian (2 Cor. 6:14).
  6. Only date one person at a time.
  7. He initiates; she responds.
  8. Look at who God puts in front of you (e.g. Boaz & Ruth).
  9. Feel free to use technology (e.g. internet dating) wisely.
  10. Only invest in a relationship with someone who you are attracted to entirely (e.g. physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, ministry gifts).
  11. Only date someone who agrees with you on gender and family.
  12. Guard your heart (Prov. 4:23).

Christian Dating Questions for Men

  1. Are you overlooking good women (e.g. single moms, shy, divorcees)?
  2. Are you honoring, God, her, her family, her friends, etc.?
  3. Is she modest (1 Tim. 2:9)?
  4. Will she follow your leadership?
  5. Does she have noble character (Prov. 31)?
  6. Can you provide for the lifestyle she expects (1 Tim. 5:8)?
  7. Is she like the worst women in Proverbs (e.g. nag, loud, quarreling, unfaithful)?
  8. Do you want your daughters to be like her and your sons to marry someone like her?

Christian Dating Questions for Women

  1. Do you want to help him and join his course of life (Gen. 2:18; 1 Cor. 11:9)?
  2. Is he tough enough to remain strong in tough times (2 Tim. 2:3)?
  3. Will he take responsibility for you and your children (1 Cor. 11:3)?
  4. Is he considerate and gentle with you (1 Peter 3:7)?
  5. Will he be a good father (Ps. 127:3-5; Eph. 6:4)?
  6. Is he a one woman man (1 Tim. 3:2)?
  7. How valuable are you to him?
  8. Do you want your sons to be like him and your daughters to marry someone like him?